I’m not above the idea of breaking a few mirrors.
Talking about age and aging can go from philosophical to downright psychotic. I have uttered the words “time comes to everyone’s door so all you can do is make the most of it”. Really? How desperate was I in that moment? I guess you say silly things like that or grab the nearest bottle of Jack Daniels.
I look at it from time to time to survey just where I am in the world. I’m a woman, who participates in using her appearance for her profession, working in a more youth oriented business (or so I thought), and I quite honestly kept trying to figure out just exactly how to keep fitting into the frame work of my professional world?
Then I had a revelation. Actually I wish I was that evolved, it was more like an outside nudge from a really smart guy Laird and I met with. The long and the short of it was that he basically showed us that we should be ourselves and represent the group we exist in. What? Be myself? I mean I preach it to my daughters all the time, and on the exterior try to the best of my ability, but to truly embody being not only who I am, but where I am. For a moment I was mortified and then it was as if all the muscles in my body relaxed. The thought of not having my success hinge on circumstances I just simply can’t avoid or control; like again was amazing. How daunting is it when you feel like no matter what you do you won’t be able to do what you want, or what’s fun to you because your birthday’s just keep rolling.
What if I just stepped out of it and looked from a different perspective? Hell, what if I just changed the rules and my references, and had them mirror ME? This is not earth shattering information it is merely the question of does your life and the way you are setting it up have harmony with the path you are on?
I live in LA and Hawaii and there is nothing more saddening then seeing when people don’t have that harmony. The lips, the fillers, and all the other procedures we do to fight off where we are. Listen, I’m all for doing what you need to do to feel good, but when it gets to a certain point it reeks of fear, not you were looking to get “freshened up”.
Having said that I’m only 42 and maybe I will be singing a very different tune in the years to come. However, my hope is to create a life that I won’t feel the pressure to be so different than what I am. A little of this and a little of that, great, but it’s when we move so far away from who we are that we become unrecognizable that scares me.
I’m vain and have a healthy ego, but I want to calculate my worth with a different scale. That end game is never pretty if that’s all we are going for. Zero chance of winning. How about being a kick ass in your work, or you worked hard your entire life, and you are off having fun, and going on adventures? Trying new things. Meeting new people. Engaged in rich friendships, and if you have one enjoying your family. Wrinkles and saggy anything can not be the sum total of what we offer.
Doesn’t mean not being conscious to NEVER speaking on face time with your phone below your chin, it just means creating environments nurturing and supportive of you.
Worst comes to worse if your health is pretty good, energy is up, then just go ahead and break the mirrors in your home.